Being a working mom to two young boys often feels like juggling flaming torches while running a marathon.
Jake, six, and Tommy, four, are bundles of non-stop energy, and while I adore them, balancing their needs with my full-time marketing job leaves me utterly drained most days.
My husband, Brad, also works hard—his construction job is physically demanding, and I understand he’s tired when he gets home.
But that’s where our responsibilities divide. While I manage homework, meals, bath time, and bedtime routines, Brad usually checks out, planting himself on the couch with a game controller or his phone.
When I ask for help with the boys, I’m often met with excuses: “Too tired,” or “You’re better at that stuff.”
One evening, I asked if he could help Jake with math. He didn’t even glance up from his game before saying, “You’re way better at explaining that than I.”
It’s not that Brad doesn’t love our sons—he does. He lights up when they run to hug him and listens with pride when they talk about their day.
But when it comes to the hard work of parenting, he often opts out, leaving the heavy lifting to me.
I’ve had countless conversations with him about sharing the load. “I work full-time too,” I’d argue, only to be brushed off with a vague comment about me being more naturally suited for “that stuff.” I wanted him to step up, not just for me, but for our boys.
It all came to a head on Father’s Day.
Weeks before the holiday, Jake and Tommy were already bubbling with excitement about surprising their dad.
“Can we make him pancakes?” Jake asked one afternoon. “And cards with our handprints!” Tommy added eagerly.
We spent days planning everything. The boys made handmade cards with drawings and sweet messages.
I helped them organize Brad’s favorite breakfast—French toast dusted with cinnamon sugar, scrambled eggs, and maple sausage.
I even surprised them with tickets to the classic car show, Brad always said he missed attending.
They were so proud, and I was thrilled imagining how touched Brad would be.
Father’s Day morning arrived, and the boys were up early, whispering and giggling, eager to present their surprises.
At 8 a.m., we carried breakfast and their homemade cards into the bedroom.
“Happy Father’s Day, Daddy!” they cheered, jumping on the bed.
Brad stirred, groggy and clearly annoyed at being woken. He barely glanced at the cards and muttered, “What time is it?”
When I brought in the tray of food, Tommy said proudly, “We made all your favorites!” Brad simply ate in silence, eyes on his phone, never acknowledging their effort.
Then, just as abruptly, he stood up.
“I’ll be back in 30—forgot something at the store,” he said, already heading for the door.
“Wait, what about the car show?” Jake asked.
“We’ll go later,” Brad mumbled, disappearing.
That “30 minutes” turned into five hours. No calls. No texts. The boys kept asking when their dad would be back.
I tried to stay calm, but as time ticked by, I realized we’d missed the car show completely.
“Are we still going?” Jake asked quietly, hope in his voice.
I knelt beside them and said, “I’m so sorry, sweethearts. It’s too late now.”
They were heartbroken. Tommy whispered, “But Dad said…”
I wanted to cry.
At 7:30 p.m., as I was helping them brush their teeth, the front door flew open.
Brad was back, with six of his buddies in tow, laughing and shouting like they were at a tailgate party.
“Hey, babe! What’s for dinner?” Brad called out, grinning.
The boys ran out, confused and disappointed.
One of Brad’s friends slapped me on the shoulder and shouted, “Happy Father’s Day!” like I was the waitress at their boys’ night.
I didn’t scream. I didn’t cry. I smiled.
Then, with forced cheer, I said, “Perfect! Let’s celebrate fatherhood the right way.”
Turning to one of Brad’s friends, I said, “Chuck—you’re on dish duty. Breakfast from this morning is still in the sink.”
He looked stunned. “Wait, what?”
“You heard me,” I replied calmly. “Greg, you’re reading bedtime stories. The boys have been waiting all day for someone to care.”
“I don’t do the kid thing,” he mumbled.
“Well, tonight you do,” I shot back.
To Rob, I handed a rag. “Bathroom’s yours. Two little boys equal mystery puddles. Good luck.”
Then I turned to Brad. “You’re cooking. Pasta’s in the pantry, veggies in the fridge. Let’s go.”
They stared at me, stunned.
Brad tried to protest. “It’s Father’s Day. I just wanted to relax—”
I cut him off. “You had all day to relax. We were here waiting. This is my Father’s Day.”
Silence fell over the room. Eventually, awkwardly, they all pitched in. There was a lot of grumbling, but they did it.
While they worked, I pulled up a slideshow I’d made for Brad: photos of the boys preparing breakfast, holding their cards, standing by the garage with their car show sign—each one showing the empty space where Brad should’ve been.
When it ended, no one spoke.
Brad’s friends left quietly. Brad looked stunned and ashamed.
The next morning, he gave a real apology—not just to me, but to the boys.
“I messed up,” he told them at breakfast. “I should’ve been here.”
And though I’m not expecting miracles overnight, Brad has read bedtime stories every night since.
Maybe guilt is a powerful motivator. Maybe it’s the start of something better.
Time will tell.
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